PRACTICES & GUIDANCE
Small rituals, reflections, and companions for living with grief, change, belonging, and uncertainty.
This page gathers practices, reflections, and resources that have been meaningful to me as a grief worker, death doula, writer, and fellow traveler. Some are formal; most are not.
Take what serves you.
Leave what doesn't.
Return when you need to.
A Few Gentle Practices
The Impermanence Ritual
A simple practice for sitting with change through the natural world. Take something ephemeral: a leaf, a flower. Hold it in your hands. Feel its edges, its texture, its warmth or coolness. Now, close your eyes and listen. What does it tell you about change? About loss? About what remains? Write down one thing you are afraid to lose. One thing that is already gone. One thing you want to carry forward. Then, when you’re ready, release the object. Let the wind take the leaf. Let the flower return to the soil. And know that grief is not just an ending, it is also a doorway.
Grief Walks
Walk somewhere slowly. Leave your phone behind. Ask:
What am I carrying?
What am I resisting?
What wants my attention?
Listen more than you answer.
The Name Practice
Write down the names of those you miss. Speak them aloud. Notice what happens in your body: the tightening, the softening, the place where they still live in you. Sit with that place. Memory is a form of companionship. The body knows this even when the mind has moved on.
The Attention Practice
Where you place your attention shapes your experience. Take a breath. Look around. What is asking to be witnessed right now? Bring your attention gently back to what is real.
Grief has no syllabus.
Some days a practice will feel meaningful. Some days it will feel impossible.
Neither means you're doing it wrong.
These invitations are not prescriptions. They are simply places to begin.
Seasonal Guidance
If grief feels fresh
Choose a practice that lets you witness.
If grief feels stuck
Choose a practice that involves movement.
If grief feels overwhelming
Choose a practice that narrows your attention to one thing.
If grief feels distant
Choose a practice that invites remembering.
Personal Grief
Death, illness, heartbreak,
endings, and the quiet
losses in between.
Grief Has Many Faces
Loss takes many forms. You are not alone.
Ancestral Grief
Migration, diaspora, family, stories, silence, and inherited wounds.
Ecological Grief
Species loss, climate disruption, disappearing landscapes.
More-Than-Human Grief
Animals harmed by human systems. The grief of caring beyond our own species.
Collective Grief
War, injustice, violence, systems that harm, and the world we lose together.
More To Explore
Essays that hold grief in its many forms.
If You'd Like Something to Carry With You
Caverns of Grief is a field guide for the grieving. Part companion, part map, it explores grief through place, memory, ecology, and belonging, offering gentle practices for finding your footing when the ground beneath you has changed.
Walking Together
I believe grief belongs in community. While Grief and Liberation is primarily a writing and creative practice, I occasionally offer workshops, talks, grief support, and other forms of accompaniment when capacity allows.
If you're looking for guidance, have a project in mind, or simply feel called to reach out, I'd be glad to hear from you.